I woud like to share this story relating to Ask Prof ROn on MXit. When I received the question (5-5-12) I could not ignore it as it was eating at me. Under normal circumstances I would have ignored it but I felt I had to respond. This lead to the second question yesterday which I answered two days later.

We are dealing with real issues and I have to make judgement calls on more and more questions that fall outside the scope of STEMI.


Question: Mrning Prof,i dnt knw if my question is right 4 your position but please i real need your help.How do i tell my strict parents that im 8mnths pregnant and they have not noticed because it is not big.The worse part is im in college and its my 1St year of Diploma in I.T 
Answer : This is a very difficult one for me to advise you on. My suggestion is to say that if you love your parents and you love your unborn child you will do the right thing by facing the consequences. Often we think the worst of our parents that they may be incapable of displaying compassion but when the chips are down they will be there for you because they love you. Yes, there will be disappointment but I am sure that they love you and will want you to do the right thing. Your unborn child also deserves the right to a better life and base you decisions on this. This is a very big decision that you must face but the sooner you share the news with your parents the sooner they can work through the difficult issues you need to face together. Have faith my friend. This is what I would hope my daughter would do and I trust that your children will one day do if they were in a similar position. Love is very powerful.

Question : Thank u very much PROF,u are d best.I told my parents about the pregnancy even thou they are disapointd n stopd skul 4me.Im glad they hv aceptd it bt stil angry.Ma next question how do i face the nurses at clinic coz i neva went der b4, 4 checkup and remember it is my 8Th month.:(   
Answer : You are a very brave girl and you have done the right thing especially for your unborn child. I hope that you have told your parents that you are sorry and asked them for forgiveness. More importantly you need to tell them and show them how much you appreciate them for what they have done for you by truly loving them and telling them so. Your life is going to get tough but please do not take it out on your child because they have the right to a better life as well. At the clinic they will do a physical examination to determine your condition and that of the baby. Just relax and know that this is in the best interest of the child. Before you go make a list of all your questions so that you are better prepared for this incredible journey that your body is going to take you on. At the end of the day please do not ignore your studies. You may have to redo this year but make sure you do it. Good luck